Cardi B, Misogyny & Rap Music

Cardi B is an icon. There, I said it. Her ascent to fame has stirred much debate, particularly over the last year. A diamond in the rough placed under extreme pressure in the Bronx, Cardi B has always been about her SHMONEY, and who can blame her? A product of humble beginnings, she admits she was often at odds with her parents, meaning she had to find a way, or make one-and boy, did she ever.

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Hillary Clinton Should’ve Gotten TIME’s “Person of the Year”

Earlier this month, TIME magazine revealed they’d chosen President-elect Donald Trump as their 2016 ““Person of the Year.” And while I don’t think any of us were shocked, I think it’s safe to say that most of us were disgusted. We’d had enough of the Trump Train.

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Hip Hop. Women. And Feminism.

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“Some think that we can’t flow. Stereotypes, they got to go.” -Queen Latifah

I don’t remember when I was first exposed to Hip Hop. But I do know that I’ve always loved it. And while I’m a huge fan of Biggie, Tupac, Outkast, and Mobb Deep, nothing made me fall in love with Hip Hop more than knowing that women were using a platform-historically dominated by men-to get their points across.

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My Critique of bell hooks’ Critique of Beyonce’s “Lemonade”

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bell hooks wants Beyonce’s Lemonade to bring male domination and the exploitation of the Black woman to an end.

She wants Beyonce, (and her Lemonade) to unilaterally liberate Black women and ALL women, for that matter from a looming patriarchal society that just won’t seem to cut us loose. If anyone can do it, it’s Beyonce. Right?

Wrong.

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Love and Hip Hop’s Cardi B-A Feminist, and a Scholar

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I first discovered Cardi B on Instagram. I immediately fell in love. I was convinced that I’d found a diamond in the rough, and I enthusiastically shared my findings with my friends. Throwing my head back, laughing at her posts as I scrolled to pass the time. There’s no doubt that I’ve gotten a good key-key over the last few months, thanks to Cardi B. But for some reason, other people can’t seem to see just how blessed we are to have Cardi B in our lives.

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“To My Beautiful Alpha Females”

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The Alpha Female and the Men Who (think they) Love Her

There’s something about a free-spirited, passionate woman.  One who has the perfect balance of femininity and gangsta. You know, the one who has that je ne sais quoi and the ability to leave you at a loss cause you just can’t figure her out.

 


 

yesgirlMen are captivated by the “non-easy girl” but they have no idea of how to get her.  I offer a simple analogy of sorts to explain how this happens:

Trip #1: Imagine wanting a designer item that you can’t afford so instead of strategizing to get it at it’s current price tag and honoring it’s top self worth, you keep visiting the store seeing if it’s been discounted, saying “oh just browsing” when the sales associate asks if you need something, then mull around the store to see if there’s something closely resembles the item you really want at a cheaper price.

Trip #2:  You come back to the store and the item still isn’t on sale so you start to critique the item as a means to trick your sweet little cheap heart out of wanting it.  “It’s not worth it”, “It’ll be out of style soon”, “I can find this cheaper”.

Trip #3:  Is to a completely different store.  You wanted Gucci but you’re at Zara, in line…you gave up and settled.  You’re happy, you saved $400, you’re satisfied…but are you really?  Nope, you’ll eventually start window shopping at Gucci again or finally save up and walk out with the coveted brown and gold bag.


 

This is true of consumer science and relationships;  this is also what men do to Alpha, no bullshit taking, non-easy women all the time.  They like the idea of us but not the work it takes to get and maintain us so they settle and find themselves poking around time after time to see if we’ve lowered our standards, become less demanding, shifted our needs to align with their capabilities or maybe just got desperate enough to settle right along with their asses.


 

What’s odd is that these women generally represent all the things that men claim they desire in “the perfect woman”.  Independent, thrilling and soul stirring.  Yet, we’re told we’re difficult, too much work and a slew of other little catch phases to get us to lower our price tag.

I stan for Sex and the City, still and this is exactly what happened with Carrie and Big.  Carrie is the difficult girl and Big settled for easy with Natasha…but he came back, they always do 😉

To the Alpha woman: wait for your match, the man (or woman) who sees your sprit and raises your evolution.

To the man in this scenario: leave her alone or put in the work.

 

 

 

Serena Williams Is the Guest Editor at WIRED & She Wrote an Essay!

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Serena Williams is a woman of many talents. She’s the number one female athlete in the world, she has her own fashion line, she’s a spokesperson, she’s a model, and now, she’s an editor over at WIRED. Never afraid to speak up for herself and others, Serena’s latest essay tackles issues of race, gender and equality in the digital age. Click below to read!

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When The Men Were Edited Out of These Videos, It Exposed the Ugly Truth About Equality

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Women do everything. We’re the givers of life for starters, and in my humble opinion, that settles any and all debts for all of eternity. But besides being Mother Nature personified, we’re the leaders of movements, we’re teachers, we own businesses, we’re mothers, doctors, writers, game-changers. But why is it that we’re still not equally represented all across the board?

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Dear Men: Women Aren’t Doll Babies

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Chrisette Michele said it best in her song “Porcelain Doll”

If you want to cradle me like a little girl

And lock me down

I’m not your possession

I’m a full grown woman I am not your porcelain doll

You know, time and time again, (especially in the age of social media where people are allowed to express themselves with little to no boundaries), I find out just how much of a patriarchal society this really is. Paternal. Misogynistic. Sexist.

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