There’s something about a free-spirited, passionate woman. One who has the perfect balance of femininity and gangsta. You know, the one who has that je ne sais quoi and the ability to leave you at a loss cause you just can’t figure her out.
Men are captivated by the “non-easy girl” but they have no idea of how to get her. I offer a simple analogy of sorts to explain how this happens:
Trip #1: Imagine wanting a designer item that you can’t afford so instead of strategizing to get it at it’s current price tag and honoring it’s top self worth, you keep visiting the store seeing if it’s been discounted, saying “oh just browsing” when the sales associate asks if you need something, then mull around the store to see if there’s something closely resembles the item you really want at a cheaper price.
Trip #2: You come back to the store and the item still isn’t on sale so you start to critique the item as a means to trick your sweet little cheap heart out of wanting it. “It’s not worth it”, “It’ll be out of style soon”, “I can find this cheaper”.
Trip #3: Is to a completely different store. You wanted Gucci but you’re at Zara, in line…you gave up and settled. You’re happy, you saved $400, you’re satisfied…but are you really? Nope, you’ll eventually start window shopping at Gucci again or finally save up and walk out with the coveted brown and gold bag.
This is true of consumer science and relationships; this is also what men do to Alpha, no bullshit taking, non-easy women all the time. They like the idea of us but not the work it takes to get and maintain us so they settle and find themselves poking around time after time to see if we’ve lowered our standards, become less demanding, shifted our needs to align with their capabilities or maybe just got desperate enough to settle right along with their asses.
What’s odd is that these women generally represent all the things that men claim they desire in “the perfect woman”. Independent, thrilling and soul stirring. Yet, we’re told we’re difficult, too much work and a slew of other little catch phases to get us to lower our price tag.
I stan for Sex and the City, still and this is exactly what happened with Carrie and Big. Carrie is the difficult girl and Big settled for easy with Natasha…but he came back, they always do 😉
To the Alpha woman: wait for your match, the man (or woman) who sees your sprit and raises your evolution.
To the man in this scenario: leave her alone or put in the work.