Bag Lady, You Gon’ Hurt Your Back, Draggin’ All Them Bags Like That

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When I was younger, I didn’t really understand “Bag Lady” and the kind of jewels Auntie Badu was dropping in this song. I mean, I understood the concept, but I hadn’t really lived enough, and apparently, neither had my friends. As the years went by, I found myself in different relationships, some serious, others not. But I can’t say that I’ve ever felt like I’ve had any significant baggage, although I know we all have some.

In the last few years of my life, I’ve managed to have two serious relationships, and both of them were (are) pretty awesome. Often times, my single friends, and even some of my associates seem to be down on the topic of dating-skeptical, unimpressed, cynical about finding love. And while I’m certainly no expert, I think I know a thing or two about dating, attracting the kind of man you want, and keeping him.

So when I talk to women about dating, after listening to some of their stories, I always think of this song from Ms. Badu. In an effort to make what I’m about to say as plain as possible, I’ve decided to break the song down so we can really receive the blessing our sister was trying to bestow. Let’s have church.

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Bag lady you gone hurt your back
Dragging all them bags like that
I guess nobody ever told you
All you must hold on to
Is you, is you, is you

Really Means: You are doing more damage to yourself by carrying on this burden. YOU are the priority. Act like it.

One day all them bags gone get in your way
One day all them bags gone get in your way
I said one day all them bags gone get in your way
One Day all them bags gone get in your way

So pack light
Pack light
Pack light
Ooh ooh

Really Means: You can’t move forward while weighed down and chained to the past. MOVE all of the crap out of the way!

Bag lady you gone miss your bus
You can’t hurry up
Cause you got too much stuff
When they see you comin
Niggas take off runnin
From you it’s true oh yes they do

Really Means: You’re blocking your own blessings! How you gonna get a man if he can’t even get through to you? You give off bad energy, and he can sense it from a mile a way-so the n*gga gets to runnin’ like Jesse.

One day he gone say you crowdin my space
One day he gone say you crowdin my space
I said one day he gone say you crowdin my space
One day he gone say you crowdin my space

Really Means: OK, so you finally convinced a man to date you anyway. After a few months together, he’s gonna want your luggage out on the street or he will kindly exit stage left. Your baggage is stifling the relationship!

Girl I know sometimes it’s hard
And we can’t let go
Oh when someone hurts you oh so bad inside
You can’t deny it you can’t stop crying
So oh, oh, oh
If you start breathin
Then you won’t believe it
You’ll feel so much better
(So much better baby)

Really Means: Listen, we know life gets rough. Past relationships can sometimes leave us scarred. It’s OK to cry. BUT it’s up to you to free yourself. And don’t make the next man pay for the last man’s mistakes.

Bag lady
Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go
Ooh, ooh
Girl you don’t need it

Really Means: Get over your addiction to your affliction. Some of us don’t want to admit it, but we are addicted to pain, we’re addicted to drama, we are addicted to complaining. But you don’t need it, sis. There are other ways to be fulfilled. Let it go.

I betcha love can make it better
Betcha love can make it better
Betcha love can make it better
(Need someone to love you right)
Betcha love can make it better
(I betcha love, betcha love)
Betcha love can make it better
Betcha love can make it better
Betcha love can make it better
Betcha love can make it better
(I betcha love, betcha love)
Betcha love can make it better
(I betcha love, I betcha love, oh)
Betcha love can make it better
Betcha love can make it better
(Oh…)
Betcha love can make it better…

Really Means: Allow yourself to be loved. Let down your wall. Love and be loved. Because I can tell you from experience that love really can make it better. There’s no greater feeling than being free to love who you want, and getting that love back in return. But you have to know that you are worthy of love, first.Your energy, your demeanor determines who and what you attract in your life. Practice giving off good energy, and just let love make it better, sis.

One love, always.

-KarmaJonez

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