People Who Are Suffering From Mental Illness Don’t Need Your Prayers, They Need Your Help

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About twenty-four and a half Kanye Twitter rants later, and things just aren’t as funny anymore. We all had a good laugh at Kanye’s expense, but now, laughing doesn’t quite seem like the right thing to do. It’s become uncomfortable. It’s like when someone tells a salacious joke in a room full of people you don’t really know…you look around, taking cues from everybody else. It’s awkward, it makes you feel uneasy, the air is thick. Yea, that’s how this thing with Kanye is now. It’s become a really, really bad joke.

 

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Donda West, Kanye Wests’ mother died back in 2007, due to complications that came about following a medical procedure. Two years later, Kanye was on the red carpet at the MTV Music Awards, chugging massive amounts of Hennessy and grabbing then girlfriend Amber Rose’s ass with zero shame.

This was also the same night that Kanye hopped onstage during Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech and explained to the world why Beyonce deserved the award over her. It was shocking, to say the least.

In the years to come, the rapper would reveal that he felt responsible for his mother’s death.

“If I had never moved to LA, she’d be alive,” he told Q Mag. When asked to explain further as to what he meant by that, Yeezy said “I don’t want to go far into it because it would bring me to tears.”

That kind of burden isn’t an easy one to unload-no matter how rich or how popular you may be. Celebrities are human too, although sometimes it’s easy to forget.

Now, as we watch the rapper we once praised, turn into a rapper we don’t quite understand, I gotta admit-it kinda hurts. Reading his tweets, and now learning that his wife has demanded that he undergo therapy, is all incredibly surreal. Kanye always seemed so invincible.

And while Kanye has become several thousand memes, and his rants are a part of the constant pop news cycle and social media newsfeed, it seems to me that anybody with good sense has to wonder-Is Kanye OK?

It’s not often that people talk about mental health issues, ESPECIALLY celebs. That’s why it was so surprising when UFC Women’s Bantamweight Champion, Ronda Rousey admitted she had thoughts of suicide after being defeated by Holly Holm.

After revealing her battle with depression, Ronda was taunted, teased, and even called weak by social media users, and other mean people offline.

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Rousey, whose father committed suicide when she was just eight years old, still understandably so, has a wound that hasn’t quite healed. Holm, the woman who beat Rousey that night, spoke out in response to the embattled fighter’s statement. She told the NY Times that while she would never consider suicide after a loss, that she understands Rousey’s position and doesn’t take the issue lightly. It seemed however, that a lot of people I followed on social media were taking her statement very lightly, one person stating that Rousey should just go ahead and die because she wasn’t worthy of respect.

Yuck.

Just recently, I logged onto Facebook to find that an old friend of mine had posted a status admitting that she was suffering from depression and didn’t know how much longer she could hold on. As you can imagine, reading something like that isn’t only alarming, but it’s also devastating. A feeling of powerlessness overwhelms you, unsure how you’ll ever find the right words to say to drag that person out of their darkness.

It’s scary.

While I offered to chat, leaving my number for her to call whenever she found the strength (I don’t have her number), others simply replied that they were “praying” for her. I found that odd. Most of all, I found it inappropriate and extremely ineffective.

Sure, we all want people to pray for us. The idea is, if someone prays for you, that they really care about you-and that’s probably true. But what she needs in this moment is HELP. Right now, because faith without works is DEAD. People suffering from depression don’t need your prayers, they need your help.

15 million adults in the U.S. are affected by depression, (350,000,000 globally) while 40 million suffer from anxiety disorders. Over 80% of the people who suffer from depression are not receiving treatment for their condition. 30% of college students reported feeling depressed in 2013, and 14% of women who have given birth reported some form of post-partum depression. 16,000,000 people experience some form of a major depressive episode in 2012.

That’s a lot of people. So why aren’t we talking about it?

Shame.

The elephant in the room. This massive, inescapable, all-consuming, incredibly debilitating cloud of shame. And where does this shame come from? Well, everyone wants to be “normal”, right? No one wants to be laughed at, or called “weak” or thought of as a victim. People want to be strong. Because only the strong survive, right? Wrong.

Sometimes admitting that you’re weak, that you’ve hit rock bottom, that you need HELP is what makes you strong. That’s what makes you brave. It’s damn courageous to admit to someone that you just don’t know what to. Because if it WEREN’T, wouldn’t everybody do it?

Suicide is the third leading cause of death among persons aged 10-14, the second among persons aged 15-34 years, the fourth among persons aged 35-44 years, the fifth among persons aged 45-54 years, and the eighth among person 55-64 years old. That’s a problem.

So to those who are unsure how to help their friends or family deal with depression, yes, prayers are nice, but professional help is imperative. This can’t simply be prayed away. Hopefully Kanye and Ronda can get the help they need, and I hope the same for my old friend, and everyone around the world fighting through it.

If you or anyone you know is suffering from depression or anxiety, you can get help HERE.

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