I like the internet. Nothing keeps me entertained like the interwebs on any given day. From hot topics, to celebrity gossip, and just downright foolery, you are guaranteed to get whatever it is that you’re looking for on the internet daily. But one thing I’ve noticed about social media is that it can get reeeallly superficial. And essentially, I’d be willing to bet that it’s kinda ruining our psyche.
I mean, what CAN we do without putting it on social media? If we ate it, drank it, gave birth to it, it goes on social media IMMEDIATELY. Basically, all we do it put our lives on the internet for other people to judge all day, every day…and I can’t help but think about what that does to a person’s self-esteem.
It really got me to thinking yesterday when a friend of mine who has under 100 Twitter followers stated that she felt “invisible” because no one responded to her tweets. It kinda bothered me. This girl is a dynamic person, she’s smart, she gets the job done AND she’s talented, but because she didn’t have a certain number of followers, she felt less than. I think another reason I felt bad is because I remember feeling that same way. Currently, I have a little over 1,700 Twitter followers, a little over 2,500 IG followers and 4,000 plus Facebook friends. But I DO remember a time when my Twitter was hacked, and I had to start from scratch. During those few months of trying to build my followers once again, (before I was hacked, I was well over 1,000) I admit, I felt pretty low. I felt like no one was taking me seriously. Twitter is very clique-ish. If you don’t have a certain number of followers, people try to play you like you ain’t been poppin’ since Kindergarten. (Me)
When I finally was able to log back into my old account, I felt like myself again. But really, I didn’t like feeling that way. Followers don’t make you who you are, right?
Another tricky subject as it relates to social media is body image. Social media can be a cruel place when it comes to this touchy topic. What most of us fail to acknowledge is that photoshop and filters can do wonders…and that half the people we see on social media don’t really look how they “post to.” But because of things like photoshop and filters and such, we (us regular people) try to live up to these crazy standards, and we end up doing sh*t like this to get attention.
— Elliott James (@Mr1738) July 20, 2015
And while we’re talking about flasehoods, let’s touch on plastic surgery. There is SO MUCH plastic surgery on my Instagram feed. I’m not totally against plastic surgery, unless you’re in Donatella Versace’s league, at which point you just need to have a seat, but I AM against it, if you’re walking around acting like all those rented parts are yours.
For example–Blac Chyna, girl. Why you promoting all these shakes and pills as if THEY are responsible for your figure. THEY AIN’T. Even though I have the common sense to recognize that, I feel like so many other people are going to fall into the trap. And THAT kinda pisses me off. They think THEY can achieve YOUR shape, and they CAN’T because it was provided by Dr. Miami.
Then there’s this attention-seeking behavior…
Then there’s this…
There’s no photoshop…but THERE WERE KNIVES, GIRL!
We’ve just become so brainwashed and we’re SO into ourselves. It’s truly embarrassing. And let’s be very clear, I’m included in the “WE.” Not many people will admit to this, but I’ve actually deleted pictures after posting because I didn’t think they were cute enough, or wouldn’t garner as many “Likes.” This is a problem, and we need some self-reflection.
I think for some people, the internet, social media especially is a land of make-believe. They feel like that whatever they do on social media doesn’t trickle over into real life. And that couldn’t be further from the truth. I thought about this when I saw this all over my TL yesterday. Some people decided to bully this young lady all day after she posted this selfie.
LMAOOOOOO "CHIN CHIN CHIN NO MATTER WHAT" 😭😭😭😭😭😭 pic.twitter.com/qPLVZhFcS5
— Hilarious Roasts™ (@HilariousRoasts) July 20, 2015
It’s things like this that need to come to an end. People being ostracized because they aren’t perfect…Because they don’t fit YOUR idea of perfection. I’d venture to say the guy who was doing all the teasing doesn’t exactly look like Idris Elba…after all, his avi IS a picture of his hand. (Hey, I’m not above saying nasty things to bullies. Jesus hasn’t brought me that far yet). But really, things like this can definitely damage a person’s self-esteem, and I think we all should be conscious of it.
you don't realize how ugly you are until you're snapchatting someone hot and you're trying to take a decent selfie to send
— Rude (@FactsAboutBoys) July 21, 2015
So when I say the internet has made us sh*ttier people, it’s because we been on social media actin’ like we ain’t got no home training. And maybe some of us don’t. But if you think all you have to offer the world are your half-naked twerk videos, and selfies, or your pictures of money and liquor bottles at the club, then we have truly failed as a society, and we need to get back to the basics.